Embracing the Nesting Instinct During Surrogacy

Nesting is a natural part of pregnancy—seen across species, from cats creating a cozy space for their kittens to birds carefully crafting their nests. For expectant human mothers, nesting often involves organizing, cleaning, and getting ready for a new baby. But what about surrogates—do they feel the same drive, even when the child isn’t theirs to raise?

The short answer? Absolutely. Many surrogates report experiencing nesting just as strongly as anyone else who is pregnant. And it makes perfect sense: biologically, your body doesn’t distinguish whether you're carrying your own child or someone else’s. It simply recognizes that birth is approaching and begins preparing in the only way it knows how.

Understanding Nesting as a Surrogate

This instinct can show up in many forms—rearranging furniture, organizing cluttered spaces, deep-cleaning the home, or completing long-overdue projects. It’s not just about tidying up—it’s a subconscious way of preparing physically, emotionally, and mentally for childbirth.

For surrogates, nesting can be especially meaningful. Since setting up a nursery isn’t part of the experience, the energy is often redirected toward enhancing their own household. It’s common to see surrogates channel that burst of motivation into refreshing their living spaces, reorganizing closets, or tackling home improvement tasks.

Making the Most of the Nesting Phase

If you find yourself energized and inspired to clean, sort, or declutter—go with it! Nesting during surrogacy is not only normal, it can be deeply fulfilling. Take it as an opportunity to focus on your own home, comfort, and well-being. It’s a great way to stay active, feel accomplished, and prepare mentally for the final weeks of pregnancy.

Of course, not every surrogate will experience nesting to the same degree. But for those who do, it often becomes a cherished part of the journey—a reminder of the power and beauty of the body’s natural instincts.

So if you feel the urge to scrub, sort, or reorganize, embrace it wholeheartedly. Even though the baby you're carrying will soon be in the arms of another loving family, your experience—and every part of it—matters deeply.

Have questions about the surrogate journey? Inclusive Surrogacy is here to support you every step of the way. Contact us anytime to learn more.