Navigating Surrogacy Online: What to Share (and What to Keep Private)

Social media is such a natural part of everyday life that we often forget how much personal information we share online. From announcements to bump photos and milestones, posting updates can feel just as natural during a surrogacy journey. But surrogacy involves more than just one person’s story, and setting thoughtful boundaries about what you share is an important way to protect both yourself and the intended parents.

Every surrogacy journey is different. Some intended parents love being open and welcome frequent updates, while others value their privacy and prefer to keep details off social media. That’s why it’s essential to talk openly before posting anything. Information like ultrasound images, names, or even a due date can be very personal. A simple check-in can help avoid misunderstandings and ensure everyone feels respected.

For surrogates, social media can be both uplifting and overwhelming. It’s a great place to find encouragement, connection, and support from others who truly understand the experience. But oversharing can also invite opinions or questions from people who may not understand surrogacy, which can become emotionally exhausting.

Clear boundaries can protect your mental health and keep the focus on the meaningful, life-changing journey you’re part of. Whether you choose to share updates with a small private group or wait until after the birth to post anything, what matters most is that the decision aligns with your comfort and values.

Ultimately, how much you choose to share is entirely up to you. Just remember—it’s perfectly okay to keep parts of your journey private. You can celebrate this incredible experience while still honoring the special connection between you, the intended parents, and the baby you’re helping bring into the world.