Tips for New Surrogates

Deciding to become a surrogate for the first time is a life-changing choice—and a deeply meaningful one. You’re stepping into a journey that creates families and changes lives in the most beautiful way. Like anything new, though, it brings plenty of questions and a few surprises. If you’re just beginning, here are some thoughtful tips from those who’ve walked this path before.

Lean on Experienced Surrogates

Connecting with someone who has already been through surrogacy can be an incredible source of comfort. Every journey is unique, but having the chance to talk with an experienced surrogate can provide understanding, reassurance, and guidance at every stage—from preparation to postpartum.

Prioritize Open Communication

Honest, clear communication is the foundation of a positive surrogacy experience, especially with intended parents. Discuss expectations early—how often you’ll update them, whether they’d like to attend appointments, and what boundaries need to be respected. While these talks might feel uncomfortable at first, they can help avoid misunderstandings down the road.

Practice Self-Care

Your body and mind are working hard, so it’s important to nurture both. Rest, take quiet moments for yourself, and don’t be afraid to say no when needed. Remember—surrogacy is a gift, but that doesn’t mean it’s effortless. You deserve care and support, too.

Capture the Journey

Keeping a journal or memory book can be therapeutic and meaningful. Whether you share it with the intended parents or keep it for yourself, documenting milestones and emotions allows you to reflect on this once-in-a-lifetime experience.

Reach Out for Support

No one expects you to do this alone. Lean on your support network—family, friends, or the team at Inclusive Surrogacy. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

At Inclusive Surrogacy, we’re more than just an agency—we’re a community. Whether you need advice, reassurance, or simply someone to listen, we’re here for you every step of the way.