What It Means to Be a Surrogate During Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is a season of reflection, gratitude, and togetherness. For surrogate mothers, this time of year can bring a unique blend of emotions. Carrying a baby for another family is already a profound and selfless journey — and experiencing it during a family-centered holiday like Thanksgiving can deepen your sense of purpose and connection while also introducing new dynamics to navigate.

Here are a few ways surrogates can approach the Thanksgiving season with grace and balance:

Embrace the Spirit of Gratitude

At its heart, Thanksgiving is all about giving thanks — and as a surrogate, you embody that spirit in such a beautiful way. The intended parents are undoubtedly grateful for your incredible gift, and this season offers you the chance to reflect on the life-changing impact you’re making. Take time to appreciate your strength, compassion, and the extraordinary role you play in helping another family grow.

Navigating Holiday Gatherings

Family gatherings can bring warmth and joy — but also curiosity. You might receive questions or comments about your surrogacy journey from friends or relatives. Setting boundaries ahead of time can help you decide how much you’re comfortable sharing. Some surrogates enjoy talking openly about their experience, while others prefer to keep things private. Both choices are perfectly okay.

If conversations ever start to feel overwhelming, it’s completely fine to change the topic or step away for a breather. Remember, this is your journey — and you get to choose how and when to share it.

Balancing Traditions and Self-Care

The holiday season often involves big meals and busy schedules, but it’s important to prioritize your health and well-being. Enjoy your favorite dishes in moderation, stay hydrated, and listen to your body when it needs rest.

If certain traditions, like long hours of cooking or attending large gatherings, feel tiring, don’t hesitate to ask for help or make small adjustments. Caring for yourself and the baby always comes first.

Connecting with the Intended Parents

Thanksgiving is also a wonderful time to connect with the intended parents. Sharing updates, exchanging messages of gratitude, or reflecting on the baby’s progress can deepen your bond and remind everyone of the incredible gift at the heart of your journey.

You are helping create a family — one of the most meaningful gifts anyone could give. Whether you spend the holiday with your own loved ones, friends, or in touch with the intended parents, take a moment to celebrate the joy, love, and gratitude that surround your experience.

Wishing every surrogate a peaceful and heartwarming Thanksgiving filled with appreciation, connection, and love. 🧡