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How to Tell Your Boss You’re a Surrogate Mother


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Breaking the news of a pregnancy to your boss can be stressful—but it can feel even more sensitive when you’re carrying a baby for someone else. Whether you’re ready to share early or prefer to wait, the key is to approach the conversation with confidence, honesty, and a clear plan.


When Is the Right Time to Share?


If you have a strong relationship with your boss and work in a supportive environment, sharing the news early can promote trust and open communication. Doing so allows you to proactively address potential scheduling needs for embryo transfers, medical appointments, and early monitoring. It also helps your boss understand any early pregnancy symptoms like fatigue or mood shifts.


On the other hand, if your workplace feels less supportive or you value your privacy, it’s completely valid to wait. Some surrogates choose to share only after a confirmed pregnancy or once the first trimester is over. Delaying the conversation can help reduce stress during the early stages. Keep in mind that you’re not legally required to disclose the reason for your medical leave—your health and comfort come first.


How to Bring It Up at Work


No matter when you decide to share your surrogacy news, planning ahead can help make the conversation go smoothly. Here are some helpful strategies:


  • Set a Private Meeting: Choose a quiet time when your boss can focus without distractions—like during a lunch break or at the end of the day.

  • Be Clear and Positive: Briefly explain your role as a surrogate and reassure your boss of your continued dedication to your job. Share any anticipated time off and your plans for returning to work post-pregnancy.

  • Be Ready for Questions: Your boss may want to understand how your surrogacy might affect your work schedule. Providing a general timeline and setting expectations can help reduce uncertainty.

  • Offer Solutions: If you’ll need flexibility for appointments or recovery, come prepared with ideas—such as adjusted hours, remote work options, or temporary task delegation.


Framing the Conversation for Success


Starting the conversation with a confident, solution-focused mindset helps set a productive tone. Show your employer that you’ve thought through your responsibilities and are committed to maintaining your professional role while navigating this journey.


Most importantly, remember that your decision to be a surrogate is a remarkable act of generosity. Your workplace conversation is just one part of a larger, meaningful story—and one you should be proud of.


If you need extra guidance in navigating these discussions, the team at Inclusive Surrogacy is here to support you every step of the way.




 
 
 

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