Understanding Breast Milk and Lactation After Surrogacy

For surrogate mothers, the journey doesn’t necessarily end with childbirth. A common question that arises is: What should I do with the breast milk my body produces after delivery? Whether you decide to pump milk for the intended parents, donate it to a milk bank, or stop lactation altogether, it’s important to understand your options and make an informed choice that’s right for you.

The Importance of Breast Milk

Often called “liquid gold,” breast milk is prized for its exceptional nutritional and immunological benefits. It contains antibodies that support a newborn’s immune system, aids in healthy development, and can help protect against various illnesses. Many intended parents value the opportunity to provide breast milk for their baby, even if it’s delivered via bottle-feeding.

Pumping for the Baby You Carried

If the intended parents wish to use breast milk, you may consider pumping and freezing milk for their baby. This requires establishing a consistent pumping schedule to maintain supply and learning safe storage practices. Properly frozen breast milk can be stored for up to six months, allowing the baby continued access to its many benefits.

Donating Breast Milk

If providing milk to the intended parents isn’t planned, donating breast milk can be a deeply meaningful and generous choice. Milk banks screen, pasteurize, and distribute donated milk to premature or medically fragile infants who rely on its healing properties.

To donate:

• Contact a Certified Milk Bank: Use resources like the Human Milk Banking Association of North America (HMBANA) to find an accredited facility.

• Complete the Screening Process: This typically includes a health questionnaire, a blood test, and a medical sign-off from your doctor.

• Follow Safe Pumping and Storage Guidelines: Use clean equipment, store milk in sterilized containers, and clearly label each bag with the date and time.

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Choosing to Stop Lactation

If you prefer not to pump, your body will naturally stop producing milk over time. To help ease this transition:

• Wear a supportive bra

• Avoid breast stimulation

• Use cold compresses to manage swelling and discomfort

• Consider over-the-counter pain relief if needed

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At Inclusive Surrogacy, we’re here to support you every step of the way—even after the baby is born. If you have questions about breast milk, lactation, or any aspect of your surrogacy journey, don’t hesitate to reach out. We’re committed to providing clear, compassionate guidance to help you make the best choices for yourself and the family you’ve helped create.